world war.. going on..

mom and dad seem to hav some disagreement.. till bro got dragged in as well.. its all coz of a phone call or a simple msg.. there is serious communication problem going on in my family..

bro called it the silent attacker.. which means to say mom goes on complaining about her life and stress and heavy responsibilities and loneliness.. and indirectly blaming it all on dad.. wif my bro coming in between the both to try and help to stop them.. ended up getting himself involved..

actually.. its all very true.. all it takes for a couple to last and maintain a strong relationship.. is trust.. but mom seem to be expecting more.. she demands that dad reports of his every move to her.. even after dad apologise.. she cant take it lying down.. and has to carry on wif her silent attack.. but the most fundamental issue here is actually understanding.. if being together for years doesnt help each other understand each other better.. den there must be serious problem going on.. if one has a function going on and happily attends to his programs.. it might slip off one's mind to msg the other of his wherabouts.. that is his mistake.. but being the other understanding half.. shouldnt it be a minor problem only? it should be understood between each other.. den there will not be any misunderstandings le..

haiz.. but from an onlookers point of view.. i can conclude on one thing, that is my bro should not have interupted at all from the beginning.. why?? tts because mom has a high sense of pride.. and having to quarrel infront of kids and having her kids speaking up but not for her.. she would not know how to get off the stage.. tts because she gets embarassed.. as a matter of fact.. den she will rake up the past and start the ball rolling again.. haiz.. but given mi.. i would also hav spoken up for dad.. poor dad.. always giving in and especially at the wrong time always.. haiz..

this brings mi to think about wat happened jus the other nite.. hav i been demanding much from dear as well.. hav i been growing towards an unwanted behaviour jus like mom unknowingly? its scary.. it seems easy to jus say that all it takes is understanding between one another.. but actually putting it into action is not that simple.. jus need to know that im in good hands.. i wan dear not to allow mi to change.. but im sorry if i had been unreasonable to u.. its jus i hope that our talks would not go to waste.. coz i wan u to know.. i care for u.. it hurts when i jus .. jus only.. jus mention about things.. den without warning u straightaway do silly things.. u understand dear?? im sorry and i love you..